There is a ton of research out there illustrating how significantly our environment impacts our behavior. Often we struggle in our efforts to actively control a certain behavior because, in large part, it is the result of environmental triggers. Let’s take eating, for example. It turns out that much of our eating behavior is triggered by specific aspects of our environment. Here is an excerpt from the website mindlesseating.org;
“Most of us don’t overeat because we’re hungry. We overeat because of family and friends, packages and plates, names and numbers, labels and lights, colors and candles, shapes and smells, distractions and distances, cupboards and containers.”
Research shows that we make over 200 food-related decisions each day and we are unable to really explain most of them. They come down to things like plate size, spoon size, food descriptions on menus, the shape of a glass, and thousands of other details that we pay little attention to.
Ignoring these triggers and attempting to fight these behaviors with sheer will power is a losing battle. We’ve all lost these battles on some front.
This is why disruption, even though we avoid it at all cost, is so good for us. If our lives are disrupted enough that we are left without the usual triggers to drive our behavior, then WE get to decide. It’s exhausting because you don’t get to coast on auto pilot anymore, but you have the opportunity to choose who you’re going to be.
This insight applies to all the aspects of our lives. our conversational style, how we handle conflict, what we do with our free time, how we spend our money. There is almost no mystery about how someone should go about getting the results they desire in these areas. Go read a couple books and you’ll have a good idea. The challenge is in getting the right behavior.
Try a good dose of disruption to wipe out all the triggers that have been running your life. It’s not pleasant at first. Everything in you will be bucking against such an impetuous move, but let your desire for something more give you the courage to go for it. Be one of those crazy ones!!!!
or… you could let this little fit pass and just go with the flow. You could see if there’s anything on TV… It’s your call…