“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
You actually need the tribe. It is the only way you can become your true self. It is through them and with them that you are yourself and it is your responsibility to utilize them for that purpose. You have to open yourself to them. You have to release your identity in your interaction with them. But, all of this is much different than taking on a collective identity. It is quite the opposite. You are the only one like you. You must come to the table. You have to engage in that struggle to keep from being “overwhelmed” by them. You bring yourself… as scary as that may sound. The rest of them are relying on it for the revealing of their own identities. We don’t realize how hard we have been working to fit the collective identity. We are trained this way from the very beginning.